Raising a Child Who Is Different

Becoming a parent for the first time is one of the most disorienting, humbling experiences a person can go through. Nobody hands you a manual. You move through it on instinct and love and a quiet terror you never really say out loud. There are unspoken emotions, sleepless nerves, and a thousand moments where you simply have no idea what you're doing — and somehow, you do it anyway.

But becoming a parent to a child who is different is another level of uncharted territory. There is no roadmap. There is no community of parents ahead of you who have walked the exact same path. There is just you, your partner, and a love so fierce it almost frightens you.

The News That Changes Everything

We found out Olivia had a limb difference when I was five months pregnant.

I remember the weight of that moment. A heaviness I still struggle to put into words. It wasn't fear that she was different. It was something else entirely — how will she move through this world? The world has made it so normal: ten fingers, ten toes. And when that isn't the case, people don't know what to do with it. Since when does being different mean you don't belong? Since when does it mean you have less of a reason to live, to thrive, to take up space?

Olivia is proof that it doesn't.

But even in that heaviness, something else was there too. A quiet knowing. We looked at each other and felt — really felt — that she was meant for bigger things. That she had been placed in our lives with intention, and that we had been handed the biggest, most sacred role of our lives. Not a burden. A gift. A calling.

We didn't know what that would look like yet. We just knew we were in it, together, all the way.

She Came Into the World Anyway

Olivia came into this world in the middle of a global pandemic.

If the universe was going to test us, it was going to go all in.

The hospitals were quiet in the wrong way. Waiting rooms empty. Visitors weren't allowed. The world outside felt suspended, uncertain, afraid — and in the middle of all of it, this tiny, extraordinary person arrived and demanded to be seen.

And she was. She absolutely was. And she still is.

There is something almost poetic about a child like Olivia being born in a time when the whole world was being asked to reckon with fragility, resilience, and what it means to adapt. She arrived already knowing things most people spend a lifetime trying to figure out.

What Nobody Tells You

Nobody tells you that raising a child who is different will stretch you in ways that feel both impossible and beautiful at the same time.

Nobody tells you about the stares in public, and how you'll have to decide — again and again — whether to educate, to ignore, or to just hold your child's hand a little tighter and keep walking.

Nobody tells you how fiercely proud you will be. Not despite her difference, but because of who she is — a person navigating a world that wasn't entirely built for her, and doing it with a spirit that takes your breath away.

Nobody tells you that your child will teach you more about courage, adaptability, and joy than you will ever teach her.

And nobody tells you that one day, you will forget. Not in a sad way — in the most beautiful way. There will come a point where her limb difference is just part of her, the same way her laugh is, the same way her stubbornness is. Because in your eyes, she is just her.

The Ongoing Work

Parenting a child who is different is not a single chapter — it's the whole book.

It's the constant appointments, the specialists, the follow-ups that never really end. It's the decisions you have to make on behalf of someone who can't yet make them for themselves, and the weight of knowing those decisions will shape her future. Should we amputate? Is this the right call? Should we wait? Questions nobody prepares you for. Questions you sit with at 2am hoping you're getting it right.

It's advocating loudly in rooms where you feel like the only one who truly sees her. It's the first days of school, watching from the doorway, hoping the other kids are kind — and being moved to tears when they are.

But it's also the ordinary moments. The lunch boxes packed with her favourite snacks. The bedtime stories she asks for twice. The way she runs to the door when she hears you come home. The laugh that fills the whole room and makes everyone around her lighter. Because she is not only her difference. She is all of it. Every single part.

We are still in the thick of it. We will always be in the thick of it, in the best possible way. And if there is one thing we have learned, it is this: children who are different don't need to be fixed. They need to be known. Seen. Advocated for — especially in a world where "normal" is still painted to look a very specific way.

And knowing Olivia? That is the greatest privilege of our lives.

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If you are a parent raising a child who is different — in any way — know that you are not alone. The path is uncharted, but you are exactly the right person to walk it.

Welcome to OLI: Our Story

Coming Back Home

OLI was born from the idea of coming back home to ourselves.

Life asks a lot of us. Between work, family, responsibilities, and the constant pace of the world, it’s easy to lose connection — to our bodies, our breath, and sometimes even to ourselves.

We believe movement helps us find our way back. Not just physically, but mentally and emotionally too. And we believe something else just as deeply:

We show up.
We show up for ourselves. And we show up for each other.

Because returning to ourselves is powerful — but doing it in community makes it even stronger.

The Power of a Village

Ten years ago, Mildret and I, sisters-in-law, made a big move — leaving our familiar lives and relocating to Honduras. New country. New routines. Motherhood. Life’s inevitable highs and lows.

It wasn’t always easy. Some days felt heavy, and there were moments when we weren’t sure how we’d navigate the challenges ahead. But through it all, we showed up for each other — in ways big and small. And gradually, movement began to mean more than just exercise.

It became our anchor. A way to process life, clear our minds, regulate our nervous systems, and reconnect with ourselves when everything felt overwhelming. It taught us an essential truth: movement is medicine, but connection is just as vital.

Along the way, we realized we’re not meant to go through life alone. We need community. We need people who see us. We need a village.

Why OLI

OLI is named after Olivia, Mildret’s daughter.

Olivia came into this world with a limb difference, and from the moment she arrived, she changed the way we understood strength. She reminded us that strength doesn’t look just one way. We all move through this world differently — and that’s not something to fix; it’s something to honor.

In many ways, Olivia represents the heart of what OLI stands for: resilience in its many forms, challenges that shape us into stronger and more compassionate people, and the lessons that the smallest humans sometimes teach us.

A little girl named Oli came into this world and, in many ways, made all of us better.

More Than Movement

When we created OLI, we didn’t want just another fitness studio. We wanted a space where movement supports the whole person.

A place where people come not only to build physical strength, but also to care for their mental and emotional health. A place to pause. To breathe. To reconnect with your body — surrounded by people doing the same.

A Place to Show Up

At OLI, we believe in showing up. Some days that means challenging yourself and building strength. Other days it simply means arriving on your mat and taking a breath.

Both matter.

Coming back home to yourself isn’t a one-time thing — it’s something you return to again and again. OLI is a space for that return.

A space to move. A space to reconnect. A space where we show up — for ourselves and for each other.

Welcome to OLI.